10 Flags Of Toxic Person That Will Ruin Your Life.

The world is an interesting place and there is so much diversity. Of course, in such a complex and large system there are all kinds of people. People who suck the life out of you with constant negativity, complaints, gossip, selfishness, or extreme dependency are damaging. We need to find empathy, compassion and positive stimuli to survive in this awesome world.

In order to survive, we first need to be able to understand and spot a toxic person. They look like everyone else, talk like everyone else, and can be disguised as your best friend, family member, or partner. Toxic people are master manipulator, skilled liars, and great actors. They can be hiding everywhere.

One way to tell you have a toxic person in your life. Every time you encounter or hang out with them, you feel exhausted, emotionally drained, and negative. There’s always something with this person.

Being able to spot their harmful behavior is the first step to minimizing their impact. You may not be able to change the way they do, but you can change what you do with it. You should get rid of or, at the least avoid as much possible.

1. Dishonest and Lies.

Some friends will swear secrecy when you tell them something confidential. When you find this information is now common knowledge, you may well be furious and decide to end the friendship. But dishonest and untruthful people can also do harm in many other ways. They may also be insincere and lie to you about what they think of your behavior when you ask them for feedback. These people can only damage friendship over time because trust, truthfulness and honesty are the most precious qualities in any friendship. If they do these things, they aren’t worthy of your friendship.

2. The Judgmental.

Judgmental people are quick to tell you exactly what is and isn’t. They have a way of taking the thing you’re most passionate about and making you feel terrible about it. Instead of appreciating and learning from people who are different from them, judmental people look down on others.

3. Jealous.

I can spot a jealous person from a mile away and I want to show you how to as well. Jealous people are incredibly toxic because they have so much internal self-hate that they can’t be happy for anyone around them. And typically, their jealousy comes out as judgment, criticism or gossip. According to them, everyone else is awful, uncool or lacking in some way. If someone starts jealously gossiping with you about other people, watch out. This might be a toxic person and you never know what they say about you behind your back.

4. Never Apologize.

Being in a relationship with someone who never apologizes usually feels somewhere on the spectrum between confusing and soul-crushing. It can be hard to forge authentic connections with someone who seems to believe he or she is never wrong. They don’t see any reason to, because things are always someone else’s fault.

5. Manipulator.

Their modus operandi is to get people to do what they want them to do. It’s all about them. They use other people to accomplish whatever their goal happens to be. Forget what you want; this is not about equality in a relationship—far from it.

6. The Twisted.

There are certain toxic people who have bad intentions, deriving deep satisfaction from the pain and misery of others. They are either out to hurt you, to make you feel bad, or to get something from you; otherwise, they have no interest in you. The only good thing about this type is that you can spot their intentions quickly, which makes it that much faster to get them out of your life.

7. Play Victim.

These are the experts at the blame game. They never take ownership of their own shortcomings or mistakes. They are the victim and it is never their fault! It always seem to be the fault of others.

8. Drama Queen.

Some toxic people are queens for drama. Something always is wrong. Always. And, of course, once a problem is solved, another one emerges. And they only want your empathy, sympathy and support–but not your advice! You offer help and solutions, but they never seem to want to fix anything. Instead, they complain and complain. In a relationship, drama queens are victims and thrive in a crisis because it makes them feel important. If someone is a beacon for adversity, watch out, you might one day become part of the drama.

9. Disregard Boundaries.

If you’re always telling someone to stop behaving a certain way and they only continue, that person is probably toxic. Respecting the boundaries of others comes naturally to well adjusted adults. The toxic person thrives on violating them.

10. Exaggeration.

How we could go on and on about this last one…but we’ll desist. The toxic people have a way of drawing on the one time you didn’t or the one time you did as evidence. Don’t buy into the argument. You won’t win. And you don’t need to.

This post is meant as a general overview: Relationships are complex and it may not be easy to deal with toxic people until you have learned from previous interactions. I understand that many relationships, especially familial ones, are more difficult because it’s not so easy to close the door and say goodbye. But the bottom line is that if you feel bad about yourself as a result of a relationship with another person, it’s time to sit down and assess the issue. They may be unlikely to change, but you can. Weigh the pros (if there are any) and the cons, make a decision to limit your time with this person or end the relationship—and don’t look back.